JmOz Posted January 2, 2018 Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 I need to put this out in the world, somewhere, anywhere.... I suffer from a type of depression called Persistent Depression Disorder. Today it is really bad... SteveZilla and Pariah 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
death tribble Posted January 2, 2018 Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 That's why you are here. Talk to us. We're here. Trying to fight it on your own is not recommended. I have felt depressed but like most people, I keep it all in. Mine is not that bad. Hang on in there. We are here to help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pariah Posted January 2, 2018 Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 I don't know what to say, so I'll just say this: I'm glad you're here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JmOz Posted January 2, 2018 Author Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 Some background... My wife has serious health issues. I use to lean on my daughter. Daughter got new guy...new guy did not like it She moved out THings got worse with wife's health I begged for the help I needed (Her and her now husband to move in, so I was not facing it alone) He stated they would not because "He needed to be able to walk around naked"... She thought he had a wonderful POV Lots of fighting She has basically not spoken to me since her and his attitude put me in a psych ward...Fathers Day... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
death tribble Posted January 2, 2018 Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 i'd hit him. Sorry but he needs an attitude adjustment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JmOz Posted January 2, 2018 Author Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 I was so desperate for the help I needed that I let him say and do a lot of things like that... I also had and still believe it was HER responsibility to say "That is not right, apologize to him"...that is what ALOT of the fighting has been about. He has an attitude of "why should I"...It's been two years sense he said it...My depression has gotten a lot worse in that time (1 failed suicide attempts)...the comment was made a month and a half after the first suicide attempt, the second time I got to that point was when I checked myself into the Psych ward...It was after a big fight where I was begging her to do some things I feel are just basic human curtisies (Answer my calls, stand up to him, appreciate the pain I am in, be honest with me) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cygnia Posted January 2, 2018 Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 Jedi hugs if you need them. Are you seeing any sort of trained therapist or counselor, if I may ask? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JmOz Posted January 2, 2018 Author Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 I was over the summer, but due to location and scheduling.... I am on "happy pills" that make me feel like a liar (don't, just don't...I know they help, but I feel the way I do about them).... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mattingly Posted January 2, 2018 Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 Sorry it sucks. But at least you're racking up some XPs, right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Man Posted January 2, 2018 Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 Depression is partially a brain chemistry issue, so I recommend staying on the happy pills until the chemistry is normalized. (I know I could use some happy pills some days. Yesterday would have been one.) How you are feeling is understandable given what is going on with your wife's health issues and your daughter's situation. If you're a caregiver, that's extremely hard for anyone to deal with; I've witnessed that firsthand. Most people also have a hard time discussing it, so by posting here you're ahead of the game. Still, you'll need to get back into the routine of seeing a pro to talk through it. Your daughter's in a tough spot if she's caught between you and the naked asshole she married. (Let him wander around your house naked and then post pictures on the internet.) We're going to have to find someone else for you to lean on. We're here, but we're kind of virtual. Local health care centers, universities, and churches often have affordable options, we just have to find them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cygnia Posted January 2, 2018 Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 One of the tricky things is finding the right medication for your depression (which can be complicated if you have other problems like anxiety or being bipolar). Zoloft made me nauseous and Welbutrin/Lexapro made me edgy and gave me trouble sleeping. So it took me a while to get it treated safely. Prozac ended up being my salvation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassandra Posted January 2, 2018 Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 I just try to remember there is always tomorrow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
megaplayboy Posted January 2, 2018 Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 Most anti-depressants are about 30-40% effective--that is, they work for about 30-40% of depressives. So there's a trial and error aspect to them. Other things that help fight depression: 1. Keeping a proper, regular sleep schedule--don't oversleep! 2. Eating properly--taking multivitamins and avoiding too much sugar, caffeine and processed food 3. Regular exercise--even a 20 minute walk is helpful 4. Getting some sunlight 5. Socializing with friends and family--you may need to reach out beyond your immediate family for this--support groups for depression exist 6. Defeating negative self-talk--aka Cognitive Behavioral Therapy--can work wonders Medication can work, but as I said, it's trial and error, and you have to be properly diagnosed and take them consistently The one other option, beyond all this, is ECT(Electro Convulsive Therapy). My brother works at an ECT facility--it's a treatment for extreme depression, and it does have side effects, but it's fairly effective when all else has been tried. Don't give up! drunkonduty 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zeropoint Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 Hey, I just wanted to join the group saying "we're here for you." I also suffer from depression; I don't recall all the medical terms, but I have both recurring depressive episodes and what they call "dysthymic disorder"; a constant low-grade depression. I know how much it both hurts and makes it hard to take care of yourself. Virtual hugs from me, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JmOz Posted January 3, 2018 Author Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 9 hours ago, Zeropoint said: Hey, I just wanted to join the group saying "we're here for you." I also suffer from depression; I don't recall all the medical terms, but I have both recurring depressive episodes and what they call "dysthymic disorder"; a constant low-grade depression. I know how much it both hurts and makes it hard to take care of yourself. Virtual hugs from me, too. They changed the name to persistent depression disorder...that is what I have Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Man Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 Persistent is an expensive advantage, but at least it doesn't cost you any END. Sorry, I'll show myself out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Man Posted January 5, 2018 Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 Just making sure this thread (and its original poster) don't fall off the front page. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hermit Posted January 5, 2018 Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 Anxiety disorders and depression both run in my family, so..sympathies. Not that my sympathies mean much Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tkdguy Posted January 7, 2018 Report Share Posted January 7, 2018 Hang in there, JmOz. We're with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JmOz Posted January 7, 2018 Author Report Share Posted January 7, 2018 Thank you for the support...It is just very...painful/hard/draining/don't really know the word each day. I do appreciate the support, and Old-man thanks for caring enough to keep it on page 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zeropoint Posted January 7, 2018 Report Share Posted January 7, 2018 I don't know the word, but I do know the feeling. For what it's worth, you've got my sympathy, JmOz. Jedi Hugs, as they say. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
death tribble Posted January 13, 2018 Report Share Posted January 13, 2018 just giving this a bump so that you know we are still thinking about you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misterdeath Posted January 15, 2018 Report Share Posted January 15, 2018 Know that I'm thinking about you and hope that things get better for you soon. If you need anything, I'm a PM away. D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Man Posted January 16, 2018 Report Share Posted January 16, 2018 Hoping JmOz has managed to start talking to a counselor again. Even online ones are beneficial. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
death tribble Posted January 23, 2018 Report Share Posted January 23, 2018 And if not he should still know we are refreshing this thread Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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